Balance the Conscious and Unconscious Minds for Relationship Success

To conclude our discussion on the unconscious mind running our relationships, I want you to remember: There are no accidents in the universe.

We attract what we need and want. If we need a teacher, the right one will appear.

Relationships are failing at an alarming rate; maybe it is time to start learning from our failures.

We can’t consciously think ourselves into a successful relationship.

We need to balance our conscious and unconscious minds in order to learn and grow from our mistakes and failures, while facing our fears in our commitment to grow and develop.

We look forward to seeing you at our upcoming events:

Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.

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Relationship Skills Must Be Developed

In school, boys were never taught how to treat girls; they were always told what not to do, never what to do to enhance communication, foster commitment, or how to develop conflict resolution skills.

We learned from our parents, if we were lucky enough to have both parents.

If the father wasn’t present most young women missed the crucial training on how a man treats a goddess.

Girls were unconsciously programmed by fairy tales to believe in fantasies.

The male mind is always measuring, conquering and solving problems involving money, cars, computers and other technical issues.

Think about this for a few days - and we'll be back with more next time!

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Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.

Our next Relationship Readiness Weekend is coming up on June 6-7, 2009. This is a powerful program guaranteed to provide you clarity and direction around relationships. Register here

Couples Weekend Retreat - BY APPOINTMENT ONLY - in Beverly Hills, CA - you receive 23 Intimate & Intense Hours of coaching. Contact us for more information.

Tips to Cultivating Intimacy in Relationships

To cultivate intimacy, learn and study the keys for a successful relationship. Know what your soul requires, not just what you want. What your soul requires is not optional, what you want can change with age and wisdom.

Identify your top twenty values and choose someone who shares them. Select someone who is committed to growth and development. They will be more likely to seek and accept help during a relationship crisis.

Also, maintain your autonomy. Becoming too attached to the relationship can cause us to lose our self-respect and self-love. People must find ways to meet this and other needs even when their lives are full with children, friends, family or life partners.

Most importantly, consciously choose a great communicator or someone who is willing to work on becoming a more effective communicator. This includes the ability to compromise on the most difficult and unpleasant issues. A win-win attitude will not allow both people to get their needs met.

Finally, be an example of what you want. Seek to give rather than to receive. Provide an affectionate touch, actively listen, make eye contact, make your hellos and good-byes meaningful and try to understand your partner. Before pointing the finger and talking about how you’re not getting what you want, ask yourself if you’re giving it. Lead by example.

Melvin is married and he is a life coach, speaker and facilitator specializing in relationships and personal growth. Melvin has been a guest on radio and television, and he co-hosted "Relationships 911," in L.A. He is currently pursuing a Ph.D. in Psychology, and he has a M.A. in Spiritual Psychology from USM. He has facilitated hundreds of seminars for singles and for couples. MelvinandSherrie.com, 310-248-2733.