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Education - Vital for Designing a Relationship for the Next 25 Years

There are six ways to design a relationship for the next 25 years. These include selection, acceptance, communication, education, commitment and change in consciousness.

We've already covered Selection, Acceptance and Communication.

Today we will talk about Education:

Think about it: What would it be like if schools taught children how to listen as well as how to read and write?

Listening is more important than speaking, since over 60% of all communication is through body language.

No one is really listening. They are judging, interpreting and figuring out what they are going to say before you finish, if you finish at all.

Interpersonal skills are eroding with the advent of technology, emails, and texting.

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Communication in the Relationship Transformation Era

We are in the “Relationship Transformation Era.” How would you design a relationship for the next 25 years? What can be done to decrease the divorce rate, reduce the number of single female parents and enhance our ability to relate to our partners? We're addressing six ways you can do this and they include selection, acceptance, communication, education, commitment and change in consciousness.

Today, we will talk a bit about communication...

Communication

Most people focus on talking; very few are authentic and active listeners.

We can only hear through our biases and interpretations of life.

We see and understand life in our own unique way; no two people see life exactly same way, not even twins.

It takes work and skill to be a heartfelt listener who is more interested in validation and empathy than interpretation and judgment.

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Acceptance - Part Two of Designing a Relationship for the 2010 Era

Last time we talked about Selection - one of the 6 ways to design a relationship for the 2010 era. Today is # 2...

Acceptance

We see life differently; we're always attempting to show our partners how life looks from our vantage point.

The problem is our partners can't see our lives with their glasses, most of them can only see their worlds with their own glasses.

The solution is to have someone who is willing to see you with your glasses.

Anyone who is interested and committed to seeing, and hearing your story, viewpoint, or interpretation of life is a gift.

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Tomorrow: Communication

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Designing a Relationship - Selection

The six ways to Design a Relationship include selection, acceptance, communication, education, commitment and change in consciousness.

Today we'll talk about Selection...

We believe women will improve their selection process out of necessity and their desire to decrease the number of failed relationships.

Women have the ability to say yes or no to every relationship and since men are not the emotional gatekeepers, it is up to women to change the future of relationships.

Women are committed to having successful relationships, which is demonstrated in their attendant in seminars, churches and personal growth and development workshops.

They are the first to suggest therapist, counseling, or coaching.

In comparing a relationship to a house, men are focused on the mortgage and maintenance of the house, while women are focused on the interior aesthetics, or the details of the home.

Next time...Acceptance!

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Six ways to Design a Relationship for the Next 25 Years

We are in the “Relationship Transformation Era.”

How would you design a relationship for the next 25 years?

It is suggested that people will live to be 125 years old; the average person will get married and divorced three times before having a successful relationship.

The average age of a person who will find true love...75 years old!

In the future, relationship partners will be sorted, selected, and delivered via the Internet or ordered on EBay.

What can be done to decrease the divorce rate, reduce the number of single female parents and enhance our ability to relate to our partners?

The six ways include selection, acceptance, communication, education, commitment and change in consciousness.

We will be discussing these six ways over the next 2 weeks, so stay tuned. We recommend you subscribe to this blog to be sure to receive every post!

We appreciate and welcome your comments - please post them below where it says "comments".

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Relationship Tip #1

Your first Relationship Tip is on authenticity.

1. Write a list of 10 thoughts you have never shared with a current or past partner.

2. Express a new thought every day for a week, not necessarily with the same person.

Note: Always speak from the "I" position. This is all about you and your thoughts, dreams, desires and goals.

Have each day be an opportunity for your partner, friend or loved one to discover something new and exciting about how you think and feel about life.

Intimacy is created with people when you both feel close and safe.


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Balance the Conscious and Unconscious Minds for Relationship Success

To conclude our discussion on the unconscious mind running our relationships, I want you to remember: There are no accidents in the universe.

We attract what we need and want. If we need a teacher, the right one will appear.

Relationships are failing at an alarming rate; maybe it is time to start learning from our failures.

We can’t consciously think ourselves into a successful relationship.

We need to balance our conscious and unconscious minds in order to learn and grow from our mistakes and failures, while facing our fears in our commitment to grow and develop.

We look forward to seeing you at our upcoming events:

Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.

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Are You Communicating Unconsciously?

Growing up, men were unconsciously programmed to be more insensitive, destructive, driven, direct and in charge. These qualities are good for football, but not for a healthy relationship.

Women and men need to be equally balanced in male and female energy. A man can be more feminine, but he has to have a male-oriented woman who enjoys paying the bills and making decisions.

Examples of the unconscious communicating with us are reflected in our dreams and images. It communicates in an unconscious language like intuition, ESP, visions, daydreaming, unexplainable hunches, and synchronistic events.

Our everyday conversations come from our unconscious; try and remember what you are saying, the words you used and how long you talked.

We are unconscious about how many times our hearts beat and how many breaths we take in a day. How many times did you bat your eyes today? What was the temperature today? Who was the fifth person you talked to today?

We are unconscious human beings, living an unconscious life built on our experiences from the past. The past will predict your future, unless you are willing to live with fear and failure.

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Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.

Our next Relationship Readiness Weekend is coming up on June 6-7, 2009. This is a powerful program guaranteed to provide you clarity and direction around relationships. Register here

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Relationship Skills Must Be Developed

In school, boys were never taught how to treat girls; they were always told what not to do, never what to do to enhance communication, foster commitment, or how to develop conflict resolution skills.

We learned from our parents, if we were lucky enough to have both parents.

If the father wasn’t present most young women missed the crucial training on how a man treats a goddess.

Girls were unconsciously programmed by fairy tales to believe in fantasies.

The male mind is always measuring, conquering and solving problems involving money, cars, computers and other technical issues.

Think about this for a few days - and we'll be back with more next time!

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Tuesday, May 26th - What You Must Know About Internet Dating - if you're one of the 44 million singles on the internet, you must attend this teleseminar! Register here!

Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.

Our next Relationship Readiness Weekend is coming up on June 6-7, 2009. This is a powerful program guaranteed to provide you clarity and direction around relationships. Register here

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Listening to Your Unconscious

There are no accidents in the universe.

We attract what we need and want. If we need a teacher, the right one will appear.

Maybe you need to get over abandonment issues. The universe will send someone who will abandon you or someone who is not available.

If you need and desire quality time, you may find a workaholic with a great deal of money, but very little time.

Our unconsciousness is communicating 24 hours a day; are you listening?

Your soul and spirit don’t sleep; our human bodies sleep.

Getting in touch with spirit is getting in touch with our unconsciousness.

Meditation and prayer are excellent ways to detach from the consciousness.

Be careful for what you pray for, you might get it, but not the way you want it!

To be continued...


Tuesday, May 26th - What You Must Know About Internet Dating - if you're one of the 44 million singles on the internet, you must attend this teleseminar! Register here!



Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.



Our next Relationship Readiness Weekend is coming up on June 6-7, 2009. This is a powerful program guaranteed to provide you clarity and direction around relationships. Register here


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Why do we fear failure if we know it’s unavoidable?

Why do we fear failure if we know it’s unavoidable like falling off a bike or failing a test?

If Michael Jordan missed 9,000 free throws, and still is considered one of the greatest, we should allow ourselves to fail in relationships.

We can learn from failure, but our brains are constantly sending us signals, don’t do it, you’ll fail. You can’t learn about relationships unless you are in one.

The person you partner with is your teacher; they will find your flaws, push your buttons and challenge you to growth beyond your conscious beliefs of not being worthy, inadequate, not attractive, and other non-servicing aspects of our unconscious mind.

Your conscious mind will tell you to run, but your unconscious mind perfectly matched you with your teacher.

How many teachers have you run from?

Does the same type of person keep reappearing in your life?

Maybe it’s time to learn from the teacher.

Are you continually failing at relationships without improvement, change or growth?

To be continued...

Tuesday, May 26th - What You Must Know About Internet Dating - if you're one of the 44 million singles on the internet, you must attend this teleseminar! Register here!

Thursday, May 28th - Free Introductory Seminar May 28th in Beverly Hills. If you are in the LA area, join us for this intimate and private seminar. You MUST RSVP! Contact us for more information.

Our next Relationship Readiness Weekend is coming up on June 6-7, 2009. This is a powerful program guaranteed to provide you clarity and direction around relationships. Register here!

Couples Weekend Retreat - BY APPOINTMENT ONLY - in Beverly Hills, CA - you receive 23 Intimate & Intense Hours of coaching. Contact us for more information.

Your Unconsciousness is Running Your Relationships

Our unconsciousness is equivalent to the universe, unknown, limitless and, for most people, terrifying.

Relationships can be terrifying, because of the unknown aspects of fear, commitment, struggle in finding our soul mates, alluded happiness and challenges in authentic communication, while not loosing our identity.

This mystery or unknown is the epitome of our unconsciousness.

Five percent of what we know and don’t know represents our consciousness.

The conscious mind consists of all we know about ourselves, and the world; while the unconscious mind forces us to accept our inability to control or conceive its vast independence.

For example, try stopping your brain from thinking. We can redirect our focus and reframe our thinking, but we can’t stop our minds from functioning.

We are servants to our unconsciousness. Our unconsciousness is running and controlling our conscious thoughts. The five percent conscious mind is feverishly attempting to control our unconsciousness.

We'll continue this discussion next time!

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Our next Relationship Readiness Weekend is coming up on June 6-7, 2009. This is a powerful program guaranteed to provide you clarity and direction around relationships. Register here!

Couples Weekend Retreat - BY APPOINTMENT ONLY - in Beverly Hills, CA - you receive 23 Intimate & Intense Hours of coaching. Contact us for more information.

Communication With Men - Step Three

Lastly, know how to communicate.

Communicate from a place of love and compassion.

It’s very difficult to be nasty to a sweet, loving and kind woman who you care about or to one who knows how to use her feminine charm.

You win!

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Communicating With Men - Step Two

The second step is to know when to have important discussions.

This is a challenge, because women are spontaneous and usually like to initiate conversations as needed.

It would help to think like a businessman having to meet a very important client.

Without question he would know the agenda, the time and the location.

Suggest a mutually agreed upon time to have important conversations.

Ask if the timing is right?

If not negotiate or request a more convenient time.

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Communicating With Men - Step One

When communicating with men, the first decision a woman must made is on what she is going to say.

The topic needs to be well designed.

Speaking in generalities to a man is like herding cats, a lot of work and highly ineffective.

Repeating the topic multiple times and screaming is a sure sign that you are not be heard.

Women should be succinct, using as few words as possible with a goal to make a clear and meaningful request or statement.

Make one request at a time with suggested deadlines and seek confirmation like you would if ordering clothes on the internet.

Tomorrow, we'll cover Step Two!

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Communicating with Men - Introduction

Women often complain about men not listening or hearing.

Some men have been trained by therapist, coaches, seminars or other women how to listen, they are the exceptions.

The truth of the matter is women have never been trained or taught what, when and how to communicate to men in order to be heard.

There are three factors that must be incorporated in every conversation to be effectively heard by most men.

Tomorrow we will cover the first factor!

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Express Your Inner Beauty!

Here are 4 more tips that spiritually conscious singles and couples know about relationships:

• Embrace the courageous and successful you, over-coming fear and failure.
  


• Leave the past and focus on the future.
  


• Express your Inner Beauty!
  


• Create a successful relationship plan and be supported in manifesting that plan right now.

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Relationship Tip: Increase Your Inner Peace

We continue today with more tips that spiritually conscious singles and couples know about:

• Increase your inner-peace and reduce inner conflicts.


• Be present and open in any room, learn how to stand out in a crowd.


• Be attractive to yourself and others, increase your appeal factor.

There are more tips which we will continue to cover over the next few days.

In the meantime, we would love to hear your comments about this information. Feel free to post them below - just click on "comments".

We cover these tips in our Relationship Teleseminar Series - our next call is Tuesday, May 5th. When you register you gain access not only to that call, but all the recordings from the previous 5 calls! This information will certainly move you towards more spiritually conscious relationships. Please join us! And tell your friends about this call - we'll be discussing where to find great dates!

Is Your Unconscious Running the Show?

Spiritually conscious singles and couples make sense out of relationships. We have a question for you: Could your unconscious be running the show?
Here are a few tips that spiritually conscious singles and couples know about:

• They Learn to communicate from their Soul.


• They Own their strong points and weak spots.


• They Expand themselves into new communities.

There are more tips which we will cover over the next few days. In the meantime, we would love to hear your comments about this information. Feel free to post them below - just click on "comments".

We cover these tips in our Relationship Teleseminar Series - our next call is Tuesday, May 5th. When you register you gain access not only to that call, but all the recordings from the previous 5 calls! This information will certainly move you towards more spiritually conscious relationships. Please join us! And tell your friends about this call - we'll be discussing where to find great dates!

Tips to Cultivating Intimacy in Relationships

To cultivate intimacy, learn and study the keys for a successful relationship. Know what your soul requires, not just what you want. What your soul requires is not optional, what you want can change with age and wisdom.

Identify your top twenty values and choose someone who shares them. Select someone who is committed to growth and development. They will be more likely to seek and accept help during a relationship crisis.

Also, maintain your autonomy. Becoming too attached to the relationship can cause us to lose our self-respect and self-love. People must find ways to meet this and other needs even when their lives are full with children, friends, family or life partners.

Most importantly, consciously choose a great communicator or someone who is willing to work on becoming a more effective communicator. This includes the ability to compromise on the most difficult and unpleasant issues. A win-win attitude will not allow both people to get their needs met.

Finally, be an example of what you want. Seek to give rather than to receive. Provide an affectionate touch, actively listen, make eye contact, make your hellos and good-byes meaningful and try to understand your partner. Before pointing the finger and talking about how you’re not getting what you want, ask yourself if you’re giving it. Lead by example.

Melvin is married and he is a life coach, speaker and facilitator specializing in relationships and personal growth. Melvin has been a guest on radio and television, and he co-hosted "Relationships 911," in L.A. He is currently pursuing a Ph.D. in Psychology, and he has a M.A. in Spiritual Psychology from USM. He has facilitated hundreds of seminars for singles and for couples. MelvinandSherrie.com, 310-248-2733.

Men and Their Fear of Intimacy - Part 2

Continuing our discussion from last time...

Many women embrace this fantasy and wait to meet Mr. Right. But, the truth is that many eligible men are shy and lack the skills to sweep dust off the floor, let alone be intimate. You may meet a man whose goal is to keep it simple and make you happy, but emotional intimacy may not be a skill he’s developed. You may have to teach him about intimacy, demonstrate it and share it. Or, the two of you may need to learn about intimacy together.

If you are emotionally unavailable, lack the ability to be intimate or are unaware of your power, then that will affect your relationship even if you are lucky enough to have prince charming ride up.

Tomorrow we will continue this discussion with tips on cultivating intimacy...

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Men and Their Fear of Intimacy - Part 1

If fear, hurt and disappointment have kept you from entering into your ideal relationship know that you are not alone. When faced with a fear of intimacy, we have three options: quit and run, stay like a frozen piece of ice with no emotion or consciously choose to take a risk and feel the exuberance of being alive. To me, that means taking 100% responsibility for your relationships.

Women are usually taught at a young age to allow “prince charming” to come and sweep them off their feet. Many women watched Cinderella and Snow White when they were younger. Their mothers didn’t know that they were teaching their daughters to look for someone to rescue them and bring passion to their lives.

Is this you? We would love to hear your comments about this and we will continue this discussion next time!

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To Listen With Love

From “to let go takes love” To “to communicate with love”...

To communicate with love does not mean stop caring, it means I cannot listen for someone else.

To communicate with love does not mean to cut myself off, it is the realization I cannot control another’s speaking.

To communicate with love is not to try to change or blame another, it is to find the spirit and love in every word spoken.

To communicate with love is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome of every conversation is not in my control.

To communicate with love does not mean to care for, but to care about.

To communicate with love does not mean to fix, but to accept another as a beautiful gift.

To communicate with love does not mean to judge, but to allow another the dignity and freedom to express themselves without judgment.

To communicate with love does not mean to deny, but to accept.

To communicate with love does not mean interpreting every word to fit my understanding, but fully embracing every word with an abundance of love and acceptance.

To communicate with love means to connect with another’s soul and spirit.

To communicate with love means listening to another like every word might be their last.

To communicate with love means listening to another like their words have the potential to alter life, as we know it.

To communicate with love means listening to everyone like you would listen to GOD.

To communicate with love means listening to you like you are the only person in the world.

~ Melvin L. Allen